I just went to your site and the Facebook button is showing. When I click it, it shows the permissions popup as expected. From your 2nd post, I'm assuming you've gotten that part working, but if not, let me know.
As for connecting existing accounts, there's a few options:
* Enable the "Automatically Link Accounts by Email" setting in JFBConnect -> Configuration. When enabled, if a user authenticates with FB/G+ and their email address is the same as an existing Joomla account, they'll automatically be linked and logged into that account.
* Disable the Automatic Registration setting in JFBConnect. The user will be brought to a form-based registration flow. They can also login to an existing account on that page instead of creating a new account.
* In the SCLogin module, enable the "Show Connect Account(s) buttons" setting. That will show a link any social networks the user *hasn't* authenticated with when they are logged in. That way, they can login with Joomla and then associate that account to FB/G+.
I hope that helps get you going, but if you have any questions, just let me know.
Thanks,
Alex