You can only disable the Automatically Login Facebook Users setting. That will prevent the automatic logging in functionality, which is causing the refresh.
There is no way to prevent the refresh since we have to use the Javascript to detect if the user has already approved your application. We can't do that server side before the first page load.
We do have the "Show Login Modal" option which will post a pop-up describing to the user what is happening, which will hopefully make things more clear.
Hope that helps,
Alex