Oliver,
Unfortunately, you can't. About 2 years ago, Facebook allowed the inclusion of a separate CSS stylesheet to be used with the Comment box. That feature was removed though, and the only control available is the "Light" or "Dark" colorscheme. We agree it's pretty limiting, but there's no way to override their styles. The reason the feature was removed is because people were abusing the ability to change the looks and removing all indicators that it was even powered by Facebook.
Hope that explains, even if it's not what you were looking for.
Thanks,
Alex