Spike,
Easy boy. Take a breath. It's ok

I'll try to answer everything and wrap it in a bow, but I'm sure I'll miss something.. so just let me know.
The Like button is associated with URLs. These URLs can be on your site, or they can be to your Facebook page. Each URL is unique though, and there's no way to 'combine' Likes for two different URLs, no matter how 'associated' they are. Therefore, you can have a Like button for your homepage (
www.spikesantee.com) and another for your Facebook Page (
www.facebook.com/spikesantee), but each will have it's own Like count and will be independent from the other. There's no way to say "This like button should increment the counters on both pages".
So, the Like button you currently have on your homepage is for your home page. I just clicked it. It works well. In my Wall, I get:
Alex Sourcecoast likes a link.
Spike Santee Dot Com, Inc.
Spike Santee Dot Com - Sales, Marketing, Training, Management
There's also an image of your Four Keys book.
So, you have some choices:
1) Add another Like button to your homepage with the URL being for your Facebook Page
2) Use the JFBCFan module (or tag) to show your Page info on your site. This is good as it can also show Fan's avatars, the stream, and it's own Like button
3) Decide you don't care about Likes to the homepage or the Fan Page and just have one like button to where you really want to focus 'Likes'
Hope that helps explain, but if you need more info, just let me know!
Alex