Great response time! I was holding my breath the whole time and only passed out once
That answered my question exactly, I think it was on the Jomsocial forum that I got confused and thought it automatically updated it. It is just the login module that always shows your facebook profile, not your profile itself. My only other question was on fixing the mapping/merging issue that is so gracefully done by joomunity for users who first created an account the normal way. Your method (clicking the facebook connect button while logged in), will work juuust fine for me.
Consider it signed, sealed, and delivered. I am buying this first thing in the morning!